Taking time to vote…with my children

Today, my top priority is to vote in one of the United States’ most crucial and historic elections. I am grateful to all of the American suffragists of the early 1900’s who were so passionate about a woman’s right to vote that they protested tirelessly and even went on hunger strikes to prove their dedication. It’s an amazing history, I think. I am thankful that the women who fought for our right to vote won that right. And, not only did they survive to savor their victory, but they went on to enjoy long, purposeful lives.

In the spirit of exposing my children to the cause of being an active member of their community, my husband and I took them with us to vote this morning. Some would disagree with this practice, but I wanted to live out this simple act by example, holding my three-year-old daughter in my arms as I pressed my index finger to the touch screen. She had originally heard my announcement of “we’re going voting today!” as ” we’re going boating today!” to which she quickly replied, “Oh, yay! We’re going to see the fishies!” After a good chuckle and many hugs, I explained what voting was all about. And, to my great delight, she couldn’t wait to go voting and stuck with me throughout the whole process.

Meanwhile, my five-year-old accompanied my husband to the booth and afterward had many questions—one of which was, “when can I vote?” This was followed by, “why do I have to wait until I’m 18?” and “Can we buy a donut [at the bake sale table]?”

And, my only thought was, “Well, I guess we got the dialogue going.” And, that’s the best I can hope for.

If you’d like to read a bit about the American suffrage movement, go to the Alice Paul Institute and Lucy Burns National Women’s Party site for more information.

Truth and opinions about childbirth choices, healthcare practitioners

While researching an article, I stumbled upon a blog that has caused me to gasp and take pause. It’s the first of its kind that I’ve seen, written by an obstetrician whose goal is to debate current practices surrounding “natural” childbirth (quotation marks, hers), the midwifery profession and, with much froth and fervor—homebirths. Despite her medical degree and based upon her tone and stance, I am truly concerned about the author’s ability to reasonably and responsibly council her patients/audience.

Her presentation is aggressive, combative and judgmental; well beyond harmless ranting. Rather than truly debating these topics, the author—whom I’ll call Docblog—addresses the subject of natural childbirth advocacy as if its very existence is a personal attack on her and her medical profession. She refers to supporters of natural, unmedicated birth as irresponsible, reckless, and uneducated people who don’t know what they’re talking about. She is not furthering the discussion of responsible practices. She aims to end the discussion with hers as the final word. And, that I find most disturbing.

While it may seem unlikely that I might admit this, I am grateful to her for her belligerent confrontation of natural childbirth advocates. I am thankful, because I am reminded that anyone who attacks a debate from a defensive posture elicits my skepticism—as in, why all the bellicosity? Why are you so defensive? Where does this topic hit so personally that you lose all reasonability which would give any merit to the other side? And so, with my skepticism aroused, the gauntlet is thrown down to educate myself further. Truly, Docblog has reignited a desire in me to continue my inquiry into information about these subjects and their many associated perspectives. After all, in the legendary words of Francis Bacon, Knowledge is power.

Acknowledging Sir Bacon’s observation gives me pause to consider the many women I’ve met or been in contact with through this site who espouse a fundamental mantra in supporting natural birthing: Be informed. Be responsible. Be prepared. In my experience, it’s women who have actively sought out information about pregnancy, labor and birth that most often choose to attempt birth without medical interventions. Ask a woman who has chosen an unmedicated birth to define meconium, locate the perineum or debate the side effects of commonly used narcotics during childbirth, and she’ll do so without blinking. Many women who have chosen midwife-assisted care can cite the works of such groundbreaking practitioners as Dr. Grantly Dick-Read, Dr. Michel Odent, or Ina May Gaskin. If nothing else, these women are educating themselves, choosing to be active participants in the event of their child’s birth while benefiting from the specific knowledge and experience of a certified midwife or licensed doctor.

Yet, her cautions are not lost on me. Motivated by all of the Docblog’s criticisms of natural childbirth advocates, it must be clearly stated that:

Women should choose their health care provider carefully. Very carefully. Women interviewing a doctor or midwife should feel comfortable to ask as many questions as they see fit to receive the answers and reassurance they are seeking. When hiring a health care practitioner, one should always feel a level of strictest comfort and trust. If your practitioner makes you feel uneasy in any way, choose someone else. By its very nature, childbirth places women in an extremely vulnerable position both for herself and her child and, thus, requires that all practitioners be knowledgeable, trustworthy, and compassionate. In addressing Docblog’s argument that birth tragedies happen when the practitioner is found to be inexperienced or—worse—unqualified, I will make one last clear statement: of course midwives should be certified, credentialed and insured. That’s a requirement. That’s common sense. Hire a doctor or midwife that is qualified. If there are any doubts, investigate or make another selection. Otherwise, you might as well attempt it alone, and I would never advocate that.

In the end, the truth is —or maybe, more accurately—my truth is that truth is relative. A skilled author can cull together a group of facts and figures to support virtually any argument. Likewise, a capable debater can dispute a grouping of data simply by touting their own grouping of data. The trick is to be armed with enough knowledge, and not a little common sense, to wade through it all and draw an informed, deliberate conclusion. I have all the faith in the world that my peers are actively choosing to do just that.

Visit the homebirth debate for an in depth look at the chicanery that inspired this response.

Educate yourselves and your families. Make informed, responsible choices.

New Topics for fall

OK. I haven’t posted much on this site since the springtime, and we’re already well beyond the onset of fall. Truth be told, I have had what some might call writer’s block (better known as the void of motherhood sucking out my brain.) I love being a mother—and, it shows, considering I’ve been spending nearly every waking hour with my kiddos for the last six months. Believe me, I’m not complaining, but it IS nice to have an occasional break. So…

Upon recent inspection—thanks to a much needed rejuvenating trip to New York City last weekend—I have noticed that I have four articles that I began researching in spring that have yet to color these pages.

So for now, here is a brief overview of topics to be discussed at earthmother.org within the next few weeks:

  • Introduction to the Fear-Tension-Pain Cycle during childbirth
  • The benefits of hypno-birthing.(Sounds like a bizarre fad? It’s not.)
  • The experience of being and having a doula
  • Yummy fall-inspired vegetarian recipes for kids

While you’re waiting, don’t forget to check out many of the articles already posted with the categories of Breastfeeding, Natural Childbirth, Diapering, vegetarian/natural foods diet, and Green Themes.

Have a fabulous fall day, all!

Be Well

Back from Hiatus

Welcome back!

I realize it’s been at least three quickly passing warm-weather months since I last checked in to earthmother.org. It’s been a wonderful, albeit busy, summer yielding: car trips! music fests! home improvements! the end of potty training! And a great deal of time spent with friends and family.

Today, I am getting back to it  by taking a moment to say “Hello.” Then, signing off so I can spend the weekend with my family putt-putt golfing, cooking out at my neighbor/friend’s place, and going to a baseball game. Hey, I didn’t say that summer was over!

My thoughts for this morning?
“What will you remember about today?”
OK, maybe too heavy for 9 AM, but worthy of reflection after I drink a cup of Peet’s.

A day to honor moms, and one or two in particular

I’m half way through mother’s day. It’s been a solidly great day so far.

I woke up unnaturally early to participate in the local Susan G. Komen Race for the Cure. I’ve been doing this ever since losing my aunt to breast cancer  a few years ago. I would never say she lost her battle because, quite frankly, she was the strongest woman I’ve ever met. And, she fought her personal experience with cancer so patiently and with such grace that it might not even be accurately described as battling or waging war or some other violent analogy.  She was an amazing human being. And, though the anniversary of her passing doesn’t occur on or around Mother’s Day, I always think of her all day on this day. I think of her not just because I spend the first half of every Mother’s Day participating in the race—being among nearly 50,000 other people remembering or celebrating women affected by breast cancer—but it’s also become a family tradition that my husband, children and I look forward to doing. I love spending time with my family as a family…laughing, squabbling, whatever. It’s my family. And, honestly, without them I wouldn’t even be a mother. So, I choose to spend the whole day with them (minus the naps I had to wrestle them into after the race. Don’t children ever get tired?!?!) But, yes, I enjoy spending mom’s day with my children. I also like to relax and thus, draw the line at performing any tasks that would qualify as household maintenance like chores, cooking or laundry . It’s important to me that I spend time with my own mom, too—I feel fortunate to live not so far from her. So, we’re going to dinner with my parents as well as my brother, sister-in-law and nieces.  Sounds typical? Or worse, mundane? It isn’t.

My son gave me a beautiful present this morning that he made by himself in preschool. He was so proud. He hid it in a secret place and couldn’t wait to play scavenger hunt with me to find it. It brought tears to my eyes not because of my urge to imagine looking back on that moment 20 years from now and feel nostalgic, but rather I chose to cherish him now and appreciate him for the silly, thoughtful, sometimes stubborn little guy he is. I’m thankful that I’m his mom. I’m thankful that the little guy gave me an opportunity, a reason to be a mother…even on these days when I have to coax him to do things like take a nap after a long morning of pulling his sister in our wagon through a crowd of thousands.

Happy Mother’s Day all!

Happy Earth Day 2008

In keeping with my pledge earlier this month to spend as much quality time with my children as possible, I am going to capitalize on the beautiful weather we’re having today in my fine city and  spend the entire day outside. I even packed a picnic. I can’t wait!

Looking for things to do to celebrate Earth Day? Check out these online resources. Each is packed with cool ideas and info:

 earthday network

kaboose’s earthday page

The nature conservancy

planetpals

and these:

arbor day foundation

trees are good

organic gardening

Happy Earth Day to you all!

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